The Big Little Podcast

Episode 10 – Listener Questions & More

Posted on: April 24, 2011

Episode 10 – Listener Questions & More

Big Little Podcast Episode 10

In this episode it’s back to your hosts. We talk about the state of the show, answer some listener questions, talk about upcoming show topics, and review Penny Barber’s new book: The Age Play and Diaper Fetish Handbook.

Show Notes:

  • BBIF – Short for Big Babies, Infantilists & Friends – the BBIF is the oldest internet mailing list/resource for adult babies and ageplayers still available today.
  • Our Fetlife Group – It’s called “The Big Little Podcast”.  You’ll need a fetlife account to get to it.  Luckily, they’re free!
  • Little Girl Lost’s Ageplay Negotiation Form – Courtesy of the wonderful Wayback Machine, which has preserved this valuable resource.


4 Responses to "Episode 10 – Listener Questions & More"

Thank you guys for the review! I really appreciated the feedback. I want the Handbook to grow. And you know what? I’m going to do an e-version right now. You’re 100% right. I do want it to grow and develop into the best resource possible.

And I would LOVE to talk to you guys (or anyone really) about adult breastfeeding! I’m actually lactating again. 🙂

For anyone who’s interested, you can read the bit I wrote about it for at and see some cute pictures of lactating women. Or see the movie my husband and I did on it at This is something I’m *really* into!

Hello guys,

I just wanted to thank you for another great show. I really liked the section about when and for what reasons to tell others about your kink side.
But first things first: Some years ago (I was 20 years old by that time) I decided to tell my Mom about my diaper fetish. I had thought about whether or not to tell her for some time, but couldn’t come up with a satisfying answer whatsoever. I just felt I had to tell her.
At the end of that conversation I had stated to her that I didn’t want to do anything to get rid of this strange fetish and she assured me that she was OK with it but was afraid it would be hard for me to find a girl and be happy with myself one day.
After that conversation I began to feel bad and guilty for having told her all that stuff. The most annoying thing to me was that I didn’t even know WHY I had done it.
During the following years we both didn’t talk about it again. We just kind of denied silently this conversion had ever taken place.
Some years later on I met my girl friend (we have been together for almost six years by now) and finally introduced her into the whole diaper thing. We became more active in ‚the scene‘ year by year. We met a couple of guys and girls, attended to our first munch, started hosting our own munch, went to a couple of national AB/DL camps and—very importantly—build up a number of very intense friendships with fellow members of the scene.
By that time I slowly began to understand, why I had actually felt the need to tell my Mom. I realized how important this whole thing was for me and that it had become much, much more than just a sex thing.

The point is, I would have been—or at least felt like being—a liar to my parents for my whole life. This was such an important part of my life which I simply didn’t want to keep as a secret forever. I began to feel that I finally could be and act like… ME! I was beginning to have a life after all! And I had to reveal it to them—at least a tiny little bit. I was so happy about what had happened during the last few years that I just had to go and tell my Mom how we got to know so many nice people and where all these sleep-over guests came from out of a sudden.

By that time I cautiously asked my Mom whether she could still remember that one thing I had told her years ago. Not too surprisingly she could and instantly knew what I was talking about. I told her that my girl friend knew everything about it and supported me in the best kind of way.
I didn’t really gain any practical advantage to tell this to her. I mean, we have our own apartment, earn our own money, so there is no need to tell anyone who comes to visit us or with whom we spend our time.
But it was so relieving not having to lie anymore or having to keep quiet about what we did last weekend and who had slept over at our place the week before.

The reason I’m telling you all this is because I very much appreciate the way you talked about coming out to others in this show. I absolutely agree that my parents don’t NEED to know what we do in our bedroom and neither do I want to know anything about what they do in their bedroom. But the whole AB/DL thing has become much more to me than just what I do in my bedroom—it has become more of a life style than just a fetish. So this makes me think they kind of deserve to know me—their son—as what I am.

And like you said so wonderfully, I want to be honest with myself and be honest with the people closest to me—just like my parents…


Great podcast guys as usual. I wanted to comment about your caller Baby Demon. I loved his point on the sharing boundary. I have always said that I would only share this with someone if it benefits out friendship/relationship in some way. When I told my now wife she asked if I was going to tell my best friend. I told her no, and that I didn’t see and reason to. I had to explain to her how it wouldn’t help me any if he knew so that was that.

To his question I have a similar point. If you living two lives hurts anyone then you should seriously look at how you are affecting people and what can be done by it. I live two completely separate lives, maybe even three if you count my business work life, and I know that my two lives will never intermingle and that they are not harming anyone. I think most of us live two lives when it comes to fetishes. There are just some things that you don’t need to share with other people.

To his second question. I’m not a big fan of differentiating between AB and DL. Yes there are some big differences but, with most DLs I’ve talked to, they have a bit of AB in them. They may be sexually attracted to diapers but also enjoy pacifiers and onesies. I think it all comes down to how you see yourself. It’s your fetish/life not someone else’s. Feel free to pick and choose what you like and don’t like and don’t let some unnamed person’s definition of what an AB or a DL should be, define you.


[…] Die 10. Folge des BigLittlePodcast brachte mich nun — wie bereits erwähnt — zum Grübeln. In dieser Folge ging es unter anderem auch um Outings und die Frage, vor wem man sich outen oder eben lieber nicht outen sollte. Interessant fand ich dabei vor allem ein Motiv für das Outing, das Mako und Spacey dabei herausgearbeitet haben: Der Wunsch nach Ehrlichkeit und Aufrichtigkeit sich selbst und anderen gegenüber. […]

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